“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” - John Quincy Adams.
As a leader, when people you inspire ask you for help, how much help should you give them? How much fight should you give on their behalf? As a rule of thumb, if you have to fight harder for someone else’s dream than that person is willing to fight, in most cases you’re fighting too hard. I believe at best, you should fight as hard as that person is willing to. If they are not willing to put in more effort than you, they are not mature enough to handle the level of success they think they are working toward. This does not have anything to do with their actual skill set. Do not mistake maturity in their skill sets for their maturity (or lack thereof) in their determination and work ethic.
If you cannot teach others to fight and find yourself in the ring more than them for their cause, you are failing them and yourself as a leader. Fighting someone else’s fight for them and not with them pulls you off of your calling just as much as it pulls them off of theirs. Walking away from helping someone who is not ready is not quitting on him or her, it is helping him or her. If you do all the work, what can they learn? If the lesson they need to learn is commitment and focus, you cannot learn this for them. Show them you are not giving up on them. When they are serious and ready to train, let them know they will be welcomed back.
There are people who would love the opportunity to be coached or mentored. You as a leader won’t discover these people if your time is being spent fighting other people's battles for them. You have to start seeing your time as an investment for others. Invest time when what you have to invest will be received at the highest level of efficiency. This means you might need to be more discerning with your scouting and observations.
Your messages might have inspired someone to achieve great things, but once you step into a role of coach or mentor, the responsibilities shift. Remember, the idea is to teach other's how to fight for themselves, not teach people how to become dependent upon you, your products or services for your own gain.
Talk soon & God bless,