Often times when things become overwhelming for me, I take a walk. I love heading to the beach in the dark a.m. with a fresh cup of coffee. This particular walk pointed me in the direction of asking myself: “Why am I doing what it is that I am doing? What are my why’s?” Particularly in reference to my entrepreneurial endeavors.
In the middle of the problems and obstacles I was facing, I was losing sight of my why’s. I started to pray for patience and what I received was more problems. It was pointed out to me that this was the answer to my prayers. Problems produce patience. I was not going to be delivered an instant batch of patience. It doesn't work like that. This was a hard reality to accept but eventually I did. I then started to pray for endurance to sustain the development of patience that was being produced.
With newly acquired patience and endurance, the problems did not stop but I believed I was in a better position to make sound decisions and was no longer becoming easily frustrated. It was here I learned this frustration often distracted my focus away from my why’s. The lost sight of my why’s is what was causing me to become overwhelmed.
What I also realized at this time was the development of patience and endurance was strengthening my character. When my character is strong, I have better control over how I respond to circumstances. I soon noticed I wasn’t reacting the same ways as I used to. I was no longer easily phased by small things as I once was. I was choosing to respond rather than react. The difference is reaction requires no self-control, responding does. I believe it was at this time I had the self-control I needed to no longer allow the distraction of frustration to pull me away from my why’s.
The confidence level in my hope was building again. This confidence in hope, backed by the newly acquired strength in my character caused my decision making process and actions to change dramatically. I believe I was making better decisions knowing that my outcome was no longer being determined by my circumstances. I felt like I was able to regain a level of control to reach my finish line.
Problems → Endurance → Strength of Character → Confidence of Hope → Actions & Decisions
If you lost sight of why you are doing what you are doing or becoming unsure if you are still heading in the right direction, take a walk. Think, pray, meditate, and ponder about your why's. When things get tough, you will need to recall on your why’s in order to help keep you focused. Until you have a clear sight of your why’s, you cannot undergo any development that is needed to get you where you are trying to go.
Talk soon & God bless,