“... It is not so much what happens to us that makes us what we are but how we view these experiences and what we believe about ourselves and life.” – D. Benner.
If you are being subjected in any capacity, it might be time to stand tall and declare an objection! In order to take a stand, you must know where you need to be standing. To stand strong, one must have a good foundation under them, better yet, in them (Galatians 2:19- 20). If you know the value you possess, you will know what you should and should not tolerate. If you know the value you possess, you will know when to stay and fight and when it is time to depart.
Where I failed early on in life is not knowing my true value. My identity was fickle and constantly changing. I was basing who I was on what I did and who I thought I was supposed to be. The problem with this notion is when I change my mind in what I think I should be doing or who I think I should be. Can you see the slippery slope this can be if your identity is not rooting in anything?
People will only respect you as much as you respect yourself. Cliché, but true. Respecting yourself starts with having a grasp on the value you possess in your true identity. Learning who you are can only happen if you humble yourself enough to spend time with God, asking Him to teach you about yourself. "Ok Matthew, we heard some of this from you already, why bring it up again?" Because this is the foundation that is required for your defense to subjection. The better you know your worth, the easier it will be to recognize situations and people in your life that do not respect your worth. It is after this realization you can start to address these issues accordingly.
Often times we can stay in a place longer than we should, allowing the people of our situation to continue to subject us. Sometimes it is better to stay and fight, other times it is better to depart. Walking away from a situations and saying no develops your character and can add tremendous value to your life. By consciously rejecting one experience, you allow yourself to be available to new experiences. Hopefully the new ones are more positive than the ones you are walking away from if you decide that walking away is what is best for you.
If you feel your life is worth more and you feel you could be achieving more, object! Once you do and you start seeking your God given identity and value, this journey will provide you with the boldness and courage you need to alter the course of your future forever.
Talk soon & God bless,